Life after baby can be hard on a couple. Before giving birth to Rowan, A and I did a lot of fun things together. Go out for food, visit with friends and go to the movies. Sometimes we did all three things together...IN ONE DAY! What can I say, we were wild and crazy in our younger years.
Life with Rowan has been a wonderful and unexpected journey. She has filled our lives with so much joy. Frankly, I didn't know it was possible to love someone so much. But at the end of the day, after the diapers have been changed and dinner is made, I need a little alone time. No doubt, I can be a grumpy gus, and sometimes I am the driver of my own bitter bus.
When faced with the possibilty of doing something in the evening after Rowan goes to bed, I find myself thinking, "I'd rather be scrapbooking" than BLANK. Fill in the appropriate activity: cleaning the house, watching tv, or gasp, dare I say it....hanging out with my significant other. Funny, I want to make pages about family life, but sometimes I don't always want to be an active participant. Sigh.
A + I have our good days and we have our bad days Last night, we took two steps forward when it comes to spending more quality time together. First, we meet with a potential babysitter, someone in addition to my wonderful sister who could look after Pickle; and second we watched two episodes of Homeland on DVD.
I know it's not rocket science but sometimes it is easy to fall into distance ways of being. Relationships take work and I know I need to invest some time in mine. Finding balance and time for myself is something I will have work on too. No one every said life was easy but I am choosing to show up, to try and be kind.
Happy 2013 to you and your family!